Genderqueer survey results.
For myself, I prefer "they." I find the claims of people to be uncomfortable with it because it's not "correct" specious. Most speakers of English in the U.S. and the U.K. use they for a singular pronoun casually, though they may not even realize it. It's fairly natural, and becoming more accepted. Language evolves -- this is a teeny shift.
As titles go, Mx is kind of fun.
I have been amused that since I cut my hair, I am consistently "sir"ed by strangers, especially if they are young or foreign. I can be wearing women's clothes (a dress shirt and pants), and not changing the pitch of my voice (naturally a little low, but not especially) or even hiding my boobs (as a fat person, they are not so much bigger than many fat guys' man-boobs)...
The one area that's awkward right now is navigating my sexuality.
It was the lack of sexual activity or interest for a period of time that allowed me to unhinge "what I do to attract men" from "what feels right". Going out to kinky events or to the bar, though, my current presentation tends to get read as "soft butch lesbian." However, "kinda femme trans gay guy" would be closer to the truth.
I know there are plenty of gay transmen, but they tend to be much more masculine in personality and appearance than I am.
But shit -- sexuality is a whole lotta confusing in my world. I'm a sexually-aggressive masochistic bottom with a strong sadistic streak. I like to be of service but hate being managed. Basically, I like to know what a guy likes and provide it (from booze to blow jobs)--but want to sit at the table and converse eye-to-eye. I like to initiate sex, and like to hurt people who enjoy it, but don't fully get off unless I end up on the bottom and getting hurt.
Combine all that with a fair amount of insecurity about my attractiveness at this weight, and with my patchy skin from psoriasis, and the fact that I don't have transportation to get out on my own... I am not making a lot of connections right now. (The last three times I tried to hook up with someone, they ended up deciding the drive to my house was not worth it. It's only 30 minutes from downtown Dallas, people.)
OK, now I'm whining.
Ultimately, I am thinking some more active transitioning is going to be needed to get me to where my body is aligned with my mental gender and my sexual desire.