I missed Beyond Vanilla this year, but I'm glad that Karen Ultra's keynote is posted on Leatherati.
She makes some excellent points about recognizing what we can change, and leveraging our networks to do it.
"We CAN change the world.
We can change ourselves and the way in which we react to other people.
We can choose to be more open and receptive. We can choose to listen to other opinions; we can choose not to make time for people that don’t make time for us. We can choose not to get sucked into other people’s drama. Remember, not my circus, not my monkeys.
We can change what we’re willing to put up with."
And, well, it's got plenty of her signature sense of humor.
"I’m an asshole.
With a colorful candy shell of funny and insecurity sprinkles, and I admit it.
I piss people off."
And "comic book nerd fu." - "We should strive to be more like the avengers. Superhero Kink Crusaders (with apologies to Third rail Media for smushing the name of their wonderful film) Playing to our strengths would be an amazing change we could bring about."
It's worth a read.