Anger is a filter that can often help us. We can feel angry for a very good reason, as it tells our minds there is something bad in an environment.
But if your every reaction is anger, your filter is stuck, and the monochrome lens becomes your own enemy.
Not the outside world, but the world within you.
When we always react with anger, we make errors in judgement, and we are rigging our responses in a bid to keep justifying our anger.
We become prone to manipulation and propaganda, and anger becomes an unnatural habit before it becomes the shackles to limit our emotional repertoire -- one that requires a broad range of feelings in order for us to function.
You can always find a reason to be angry, but anger doesn't solve problems, and more often than not, causes more problems in the long-run.
The trouble is that we confuse many coping mechanisms with happiness and humour. We can misuse both, mistaking resignation and complacency with happiness, and cruelty with humour.
Many people even misuse humour as a control to turn laughter into a weapon.
Storytellers often play very cruel games by inciting anger and persuading people that being mean is funny.
And then the story stops becoming a story and turns into something darker: propaganda.
We are now living in an age that lost its sense of humour: yet we need the one where we are happy without apology, and can laugh without creating a false pecking order where the ones laughing feel superior to the ones being laughed at.
Patriarchal Storytelling very often misuses humour and anger to create a manual of emotional harm: making readers angry in order to become weapons to strike down different people, groups, and ideas.
And then the concepts of happiness and humour seem to be tainted.
But only because we get very sloppy misidentifying what is happy and what is funny.
The Patriarchal, when misused, can hijack those definitions, and prevent people from seeing solutions.
Solutions that require happiness in its purest form: of love, truth, gratitude, curiosity, equality, transformation, and bravery.
And humour to be employed as intended: to elevate ourselves by being truthful, loving, and brave enough to not just laugh with others, but at others and ourselves because our laughter is not a hint of a pecking order.
Laughter signals happiness, unpredictability, triumph, love, progress, truth, ingenuity, humility, and calm.
When people become offended at laughter, they often think they are more moral and sensitive than the ones doing the laughing, and that is not the case.
It is a tyrannical move to shut down more than just thoughts: but natural and innate emotions, and can be the cruelest form of social engineering imaginable.
This is an age where we have fragmented definitions to the point they are no longer accessible.
But we need to reconnect with both happiness and humour.
The Patriarchal is not equipped with guiding and unleashing joy in shifting times.
It is the Matriarchal that can bring new kinds of humour and levity by showing how not to get jealous and resentful at someone's smile or even laughter, while do not belittle with levity, either.
Love and truth bring happiness and humour, even when times are tough and grim because it shows that we can triumph as we solve problems and progress.
So we can laugh at ourselves because true laughter is the sign that a heart is singing -- and its melodies bring healing kindness to other hearts in pain as well...