(1) I think sex only works so well for advertising because it's repressed in our culture. The fact that it's taboo is what gives it such selling power. Would a half-naked woman really make you want to buy a car if you thought of sex as a perfectly natural, enjoyable activity instead of a guilty pleasure?
It's also that fantasy can be more powerful than reality. Think of why people masturbate even when they're in a relationship, why real sex often disappoints in a world where every imaginable scenario has been made into a porn video. Men expect women to be skinny but have double D's, to be forward but submissive. Women expect men to actually know what the hell they're doing. Both parties end up dissatisfied.
The other thing with porn is that it ingrains it in men that sex is about taking. You indulge in the fantasy of what a woman would do to you while beating off like a jackhammer until you explode and fall asleep. But the magic of sex is in giving. Literally, 'sex magick', tantra, and similar practices all revolve around the mutual giving that makes the experience sacred.
When two people focus on giving pleasure to each other, instead of making themselves feel good with the other's body, something special happens. It's hard to describe, but the connection becomes more than the sum of its parts. It feels like the two of you are partaking in this creative act, where you're both contributing to making the mutual pleasure grow; a sort of closed circuit of energy that runs through both bodies.
Anyway, without getting too metaphysical about it I truly believe that this is the key to a healthy sexuality, and what's missing in our society is this attitude of openness towards it. Right now we seem to be simultaneously obsessed with sex but also pushing it down, scared to talk directly about it. And this contradiction has all kinds of weird effects, from denial of our basic instincts to overcompensation by sexualizing everything.
(2) Sebastien is a filmmaker and writer currently studying at York University in Toronto, where he was recipient of the Helen Vari film award for outstanding creative achievement. His work includes poems, introspective essays and experimental short films, exploring subjects ranging from psychology to spirituality and psychedelia.
(3) With my work, both written and visual, I seek to explore hidden things, the underbelly of the human mind and of society. things usually forgotten or repressed. This is why I find both mental illness and mystical experience so fascinating, and why most of my art deals with those subjects in those respects. Life in itself is mysterious, but some parts of it more than others, and I would like to open a discussion about those subjects.