True love is a total acceptance of each others quirks and habits. I found it 11 years ago, in the shape of a polish construction worker with a beautiful smile and honest eyes. I didn't expect it to happen. He wrote somewhere on the net that he wanted new friends, of the bear type, in Stockholm, I answered after just breaking up from yet another destructive, unhappy (and thankfully that time, very short) relationship with a Psytrance DJ - who still seems to be in the closet what I've heard, and met up with him in a suburb of Stockholm, for a pizza and beer.
A blow job and pizza later we found ourselves wandering through the forest hand in hand and we could both feel that energy, that something, that insight that we belonged together. Ten years later we decided to get married. We're very honest with each other, we have such trust in on another we can basically do what we want and don't be afraid of anger, sorrow, fights and all other things some people for some reason think is important for a "real" relationship.
We've learned to balance our lives together so we won't get tired of each other, we won't get tired of friends or family - but still can have days or weeks or months where we just focus on ourselves, alone or together. I don't like the expression, but I - at least - feel truly blessed. Even if we're not a couple in ten, twenty years we both know that we will still be with each other, probably stay closer than before, be best friends or just lovers in carnal way.
Today I watched The Sarnos, a documentary about Joe and Peggy Sarno, sexploitation filmmakers since ancient times. What a marvelous story, but mostly a beautiful insight to a relationship - professional and emotional - that just went on and on. Like with Jess Franco and Lina Romay the honesty and intimacy of Joe and Peggy transcends most love stories I've seen or heard of. A true inspiration to us all.
I see myself and my husband as Joe and Peggy and Jess and Lina, or Peggy and Joe and Lina and Jess.
Total acceptance.
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