Thinking about why I tie.
It's no secret that I love shooting in public. There's something kind of magical about the contrast between the kinky and the mundane -the formal clothes, the city scape, and then the rope.
We often talk about tying for connection, and I often tie that way. I tie to be close to my partner, to have an excuse to touch them, to control them, and take them on a physical and emotional journey. However, rope has such a long history of pornography, performance, and photography. It's hard to imagine my "rope life" without these aspects, without sharing the scene with a third party observer. Even when I tie in private, I'm often stepping back to admire, and fill in for the role of watcher.
So, it's easy to see why tying in public has a special appeal. There's the adrenaline rush of being watched, and knowing you're doing something naughty. It makes you tie more quickly and efficiently than you thought you could. But also, there is a narrowing of focus. Sometimes when I tie in private, my mind starts to wander. I'm going through the motions of locking off an upline, but my mind is on my emails, not my bottom. When I'm tying in front of people, however, there is pressure not to look or acknowledge the audience. It drives me to pour all of my focus into the person I'm tying, almost in defiance of those watching.
It's counter intuitive that I feel most in tune with my partner when other's are there watching, but maybe that is just proof that I'm an exhibitionist.
What do you think?
Rope by me on my darling Sorcery Photos by TravisAlex