So tomorrow is my birthday. I don't much care for my birthday, given a) that it means I'm a year older with nothing to show for it, and b) it's the anniversary of a Bad Episode in Dad's fatal cancer, and knowing that and watching the clock and having to pretend to be happy anyway is just the worst.
Yesterday, I had to hide out a bit. Sis had remembered that it's my birthday on Tuesday, and I knew that she would want me to trek up to Mississauga for dinner or something. And I hate hate hate having to go somewhere on a Sunday afternoon/evening. Sunday afternoon is my time to actually relax and get prepared for the coming week. So, I skipped out early, did brekkie at Ikea, did some antiquing at Mizener's (which was a muddy mess), some more errands, and came home. By then, it was too late. Too bad, so sad.
I know it sounds mean, bailing out on someone's birthday plans for you, but those plans were half-assed last minute ones anyway, so it's not that she made any kind of effort at all, and it would be up to ME to make the effort in seeing them through.
The week before, when we had the Grimsby Santa Claus Parade and the dinner at Mom's after, something came up about Cards Against Humanity, and Sis and the BIL were invited to play next weekend (being last weekend). "Sure! We're not doing anything!" My birthday wasn't even on the radar last week.
So -- not exactly crushing any well-laid plans. And their dinner plan was to meet half-way, at the Montana's at Guelph Line, so I wouldn't need to drive up to Mississauga, only to the middle of Burlington. And I'm here thinking "there's a Montana's up my street".
Add to that that she hasn't visited my house in three years, as it's always up to us to make it out to her place, and... yeah.
I was trying to make a birthday plan for myself a month ago, getting everyone out to the Warplane Heritage Museum, which the kiddies would love, but no-one was biting. OK -- I can take a hint. And I made plans without them.
And the dinner thing -- she said Montana's. I get gift cards from my boss every year, for a hundred bucks at Montanas/Milestones/Swiss Chalet/Kelsey's/Harveys. So, I treat everyone to a dinner and use the card up all at once, rather than eat at Harvey's for a year. Last year we did Montana's, and that worked out well for the kiddies.
So really, their birthday dinner for me would be using MY gift cards.
Anyway. Luckily I have Tai Chi on my actual birthday, and that gets me out of things, too.
So I bailed on someone's birthday plans for me. That's OK -- they were shitty, half-assed plans to begin with.