While in Austin, Texas, we spent time with a couple of relatives older than ourselves. It was the first time that I had seen her since she had developed full-blown Alzheimer's Disease. He did much of the talking and she chimed in from time to time, usually repeating or reflecting something that he said. Before we left, she turned to me and said, "You should brush her hair, be nice to her, and always call her Darling." She repeated this to me several times and I laughed and agreed to do as she recommended. In fact, I told her that I'd write it on the palm of my hand to remind me. We all smiled and laughed as we parted company. Of course, she was telling me how he takes care of her as they continue to live together in the same house they have occupied for decades. Since then, @judello and I often call each other "Darling" and stroke each other's hair, especially when disagreeing. Oddly, even as a sort of joke, it has improved the tone of our interaction. Excellent advice from a woman who no longer knows her husband's name, but who knows with certainty that she is loved by this man who is devoted to her. That much she can remember, because it is embedded in her heart.