There is a story floating around on FB about a young boy, 12, who was a cheerleader at his middle school, that committed suicide after a long period of bullying. The responses to this news item are filled with blaming him and other victims for it being their fault in some way. Why do we have such a rape culture? why do we have such a suicide epidemic among LGBT youth? some of it is because we keep blaming the victims. We keep saying if she did this then it must have caused her to be raped. If he'd only stood up for himself he wouldn't have been bullied. I'm really tired of hearing it. If you blame the victims in these cases for causing their own tragedy, you are part of the problem - you are a bully. He was TWELVE. He wasn't some college guitar playing hipster who was sad he couldn't change the world by singing a song while strung out on heroin. He was a 12 year old struggling with his identity and being ostracized from a social life with his peer group. He was 12. Stop blaming him. -end rant-.