Here;s the crux of what I - at this moment in time - am trying to do.
I am trying my best to learn how to be a disabled person. I'm learning where I stand in society, what is expected of me and what is not and whether or not I agree with it.
I'm learning who I am in the context of a society that tries to define me based on concepts that don't apply- fakery, scrounging, medial model, charity and many others. I'm trying to wade through hundreds of years of history avoiding freakshow and inspiration porn like so many disabled people before me. I'm trying to learn my rights, and my boundaries. At 24, everyone has to learn who they are - I think.
My impairments are a facet of me; but they inform so much of how people perceive and interact with me. The aspect of being disabled by society, it pervades every conversation and almost every interaction because that is how society is built. And I need to figure out what that means.