I had some vivid dreams this morning, but after snapping in the warm sunshine that peeked into my apartment, cultivating my social media garden and finally processing a video on the seven gigs of space I have on my tablet now I forgot what all those dreams were about. So I will not be starting there today.
One thing that is on my mind after looking through my notifications on Flickr this morning is that I have a curious set of followers. Some people fav my photos because they think my shots from the back are of a woman. Then I have a distinct audience who loves for lack of a better word "trannies". I am using this word because in this context it's important, it's not meaning necessarily transgendered people albeit I think some of those people in the photos are indeed transgendered like myself. In this instance, it's meaning transvestites.
"Transvestism is the practice of dressing and acting in a style or manner traditionally associated with the opposite sex. In some cultures, transvestism is practiced for religious, traditional or ceremonial reasons."
Definition from Wikipedia. Before it was politically incorrect to use the word tranny, for me it was an amalgam word that encompassed a number of things, transvestites, transexuals and drag queens. It was sort of the catch-all phrase for all of these because they all transgressed normal gender boundaries.
For years a former friend would call me Tranny Sue, it would take me a few more years to realize he detected my non-traditional performance of gender long before I recognized it, and in his joking, he was pointing out a truth.
Within the last few years I have learned to accept my genders and albeit I don't shout it from the mountain tops I realize now after much objection that my being non-binary puts me dead ass center under the transgender umbrella. To be honest I kicked and screamed to not be here, but my friend Q who is just as non-binary as me and my niece thought e looked just like her Uncle Trevor convinced me that regardless of me not wanting to bogart the transgender movement by being non-binary that puts me on the transgender spectrum, yes I know it's not a spectrum but I love using that term.
I think it's still hard for people to understand that transgender isn't about the genitals. I think the general American public is still struggling with the matter of transgender is who you got to bed as not who you go to bed with. And I can understand their confusion, not that transgender people haven't been around for centuries but the fact that as a movement it's relatively new and the language isn't consistently the same.
This is my biggest pet peeve with the gender fluidity movement that there isn't a set standard. I understand people want to define themselves, but I find it these things get way more confusing when we don't have some common language we can agree on. Like pronouns, I only recently learned about Spivak pronouns, also from my friend Q and just from a logistical standpoint I think the many different variations on the pronouns get confusing as hell. Take people who use they, I can barely conjugate Spanish words to now have to conjugate 'they' into plurals and past tenses. I realize if its something we did more regularly it would come easier, but right now it doesn't ergo confusion and a lot of mistakes.
I have always been loose with pronouns loving to call my gay friends she, not because they were necessarily effeminate, even though I did have a few friends who opened their mouths and a pocketbook fell out, but more so because being queer is going against gender norms which is highly couched in a patriarchal heteromantic notion of how gender is performed. Saying she is like giving a finger to all that heteronormativity.
When Anna Sale from Death Sex & Money recently asked me which pronouns I preferred I gave her a binary choice and I did this because for me it's just easier to switch between the two. Possibly my position will change on this when media, film, and television has caught up to and understands that gender is no longer a binary and never really was.
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