I used to believe that happiness was a state of being, an implicit testimony of harmony, a mere manifestation that all things are as they should be. I used to believe that somehow life owed me happiness, that I deserved to have it by default. I used to get so angry at life when things went wrong, thinking how could you do this to me, how could you let this happen, how is this fair? What did I do wrong?
Recently I've learned that far from being a condition, happiness is in fact a skill to be acquired, a muscle that one must strengthen so as to continuously withstand challenge. I've learned that in reality, life doesn't owe us anything at all. At any given moment, a loved one could die from a freak accident, or become ill from a terminally ill disease. They could leave us, forever, of their own free will. Life has the power to -and, perhaps, even, the right to- take back whatever love it has given us, from one moment to another, as quickly and suddenly as it came in the first place.
I now finally understand the idea that, "it isn't the happy who are grateful, but the grateful who are happy". If I had one piece of advice to give to humanity, it would be to practice gratitude and self-love every day. If we can manage to never take anything we have for granted, to retain forever an excruciating awareness of just how lucky we are, of how beautiful life can be; if we can manage to love ourselves as tenderly as a parent would their child, to forgive ourselves our flaws as we would those of a lover, learning not to lack humility but that humans are inherently imperfect and to foregive others accordingly; if we can do all this, then life can never again take us aback. We will have cherished everything about an experience so much that when it comes time for it to end, time to say good-bye, we will understand that living it in the first place was a priceless gift. We will never be angry to lose what we had, but eternally grateful that we were given the chance to borrow it from life in the first place.
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