i have been feyone (iVillage), feywon (Eons, Boomerville, Boomeon) and now feypoet on Ello. Some of you may know the connotations of the word 'fey'. The modern denotations say things like 'doomed', 'fated to die' as if anybody gets out of this life alive, but what they list as the 2nd meaning is the one i was told my Irish and Welsh ancestors attached to the word: One who sees 'beyond'. Beyond this life, this dimension. Fey people can communicate thru the veil of death, thru the veil between the mundane world and other realms--those of faeries, wee folk and other supposedly imaginary inhabitants described in various folklore traditions.
Why? Because i am 'fey' by that 2nd definition. i went thru a period of life when i fought it mightily tried to suppress it. But after my NDE and some objective experiences that confirmed some very subjective perceptions of mine i came to terms with it so the 'fey' in me 'won'. i sincerely doubt that the fact that my fighting my nature being my suicidal period was a coincidence. If i recall feywon was taken on iVillage so i went with homonym of feyone. Because Ello was a new 'different' Social media and seemed heavily populated by various kinds of artists i went with feypoet. Besides, after the 15 years online i no longer needed to affirm my acceptance of who i am to myself and others find out soon enough because i'm a very open person.
But why a screen name and not my real name or some part or play on it? Well back when i started on social media in 1999 i was just divorced from my 3rd husband who had some mental issues. i won't boor you with details but i didn't want to make it easy for him to find me online and be his annoying self. Bad enough in 2007 i had to take out an order of protection against him.
FB asks for real names, i know some people get around that with real sounding pseudonyms---i know this partly because when Eons folded there was a huge influx of seniors from it to FB. Some of us had FB accounts already to keep up with our grown kids, other friends/relatives. When i first signed on there it was before the 2007 stalking and i have always been discreet online (even where not using real name) about when away from home for any length of time---posting photos and stories AFTER i'm back. The problematic ex was there under his real name which meant i'd see him coming, and could quickly block him if need be. However, i wanted that one online way for old friends from school and activist days to be able to find me. Which they did with mostly wonderful results, but that's another story.
While, as is my habit, i won't be reading others' post till i post mine, i'm looking for feedback. Part of why i wanted a discussion of this is i'm thinking of switching to some form of my real name here, and wanted to see how various people feel about real vs screen names. BTW, suggestions welcome. You see i just Googled myself (i recommend it once a year, just so you know what's out there and if there's anything you feel needs correcting you can take steps to do so). While there are some other people who pop up including my daughter because she's 5th generation Esther and i gave her my maiden name as her last name because her Dad bailed when i was 6 months pregnant and i returned to my maiden name, Barmore, after my 3rd divorce, which was in Wyoming---where all you have to do is check a box on the divorce papers to get your maiden name back when divorce final. So unless a middle name or other qualifying data entered she and i bound show up on any search of the name. There it is, anyone looking for me could learn my screen name here. So, it doesn't make sense, to me at least, to stick with it. i'm thinking EstherB (short, simple).
This photo from a company holiday party around 2000 or 2001. I was working for a local bank in Laramie at the time, went to University of Wyoming in June of 2002. That's my daughter Esther Rene Barmore on the right. My middle name is Fredericka, as my Dad was Frederick. The family story is that my Mom wanted me to be Fredericka Esther but Dad won the dispute, as usual but rightly so in this case: The 2/4/2 syllable pattern is somehow pleasanter to the ear than 4/2/2 would be.