They are both deceased now. Mama since 1985, Elizabeth just this April. i'm still not ready to talk comprehensibly about Mama. It's complicated as they say. But my sister Elizabeth's issues were more demonstrably not her 'fault'. She was diagnosed as schizophrenic within a year or two after this photo. Our sister Kathleen and i tend to think she may also (or instead) have been disassociative but that class of orders was not accepted at the time. Yet she married and had a daughter, Kim. One positive thing to come out of Elizabeth's death is that Kim and i are discovering how much we have in common: values, interests. For a long time i didn't hear much from her despite reaching out but i suspected this was because she was mad at Kathleen (who tends to insert foot in mouth about family issues and had implied that Kim 'abandoned' Elizabeth by putting her in a nursing home. Never mind that Kim has children and needs to work and could not give her Mom adequate 24/7 care at home. But i reached out once again after Elizabeth died and she responded and now we're sharing family stories and old photos.
My mother was step-mom to my 3 older sisters, who called her MamaBetty. And she was a good one who more than once fought with Dad about what was best for them. She always considered their kids her grandkids, and treated them as such. That's part of why the older two would visit us and have us visit them even after Mom & Dad were divorced. And perhaps it was easier for her to love them unconditionally because they were not her flesh & blood that took after Dad more than her.
So, i just want to remind you that there are people out there who's relationships with 'Mom' may have been, or still is difficult and people who's Moms have died in recent years. The first 5 yrs after our Mom's death my younger brother was an emotional wreck for April May and June (she died in April, Mothers' Day in May and her birthday on June 24th to be precise.) It was just too many reminders that she was gone too close together for him. Be kind, think about who you are conversing with and if they don't seem enthusiastic about this 'holiday' don't push.