sometimes people don't act in their best interest. for example, when people are in a dead end job but afraid to leave it. easy to judge them, but look at my life:
i have this deeply uncomfortable bed. it's so uncomfortable that every morning I wake from it thinking I have degenerative nerve disease. but for some reason i am terrified to leave the bed. i feel like i would be completely lost without the punishment of this hard narrow springy crummy bed.
so my bed is teaching me things about people.