Signs of Happiness and other desperate attempts to fool oneself.
In my line of work I get to meet a lot of families from every part of the society, from the rich and famous to the poor and unknown. Happy and unhappy, satisfied and unsatisfied with life. I tend to see everyone with the same eyes; like a bunch of animals who either by choice or coincidence choose a path to either (fictional) heaven or (fictional) hell.
I’m not there to judge them. I’m neither loathing them or admiring them. They’re just animals like me. But I’ve noticed some striking differences, stuff that says a lot about whom I’m visiting. And it all has to do with interior design. I’ve separate the forms of families into three groups, the first two can blend into each other sometime, but I still consider them like two different entities.
The Happy Family
They have what the want and what they need and they love each each other and do what they want, even if the money is low. Their homes is filled with art, books, films, real flowers - basically everything they love and makes them happy. The culture is from all over the world and it’s possible to basically start any kind of conversation with them and get something out if it.
The Satisfied Family
These kind of people are simple, but not necessary in a negative way. The interior design is sparse, the culture they have in the form of art, books, films etc are neither controversial or totally bland. The flowers are real, but nothing original. It’s easy to strike a conversation, but it will never been too fun or happy, but it works. The walls are white and the atmosphere is reserved but acceptable.
The Unhappy Family
Here’s the emotional extremists. You can see directly if these folks are unhappy, or if there’s economical problems, criminal issues or bad behaviour in school. It’s not unhygienic or something, but there’s a sense of dread - and signs. Signs everywhere. You have wooden messages in the form of Live Laugh Love, Life is Beautiful, Be Fabolous Every Single Day etc, there’s cut out letters forming Carpe Diem and HAPPINESS on the walls, there’s smaller signs telling us that family is everything and that you need to cry to be strong and other more or less obvious quotes telling themselves and their guests that their family is SO strong and happy they need to point it out in very fucking direction. Add to this so-called massproduced art bought from cheap outlets, often extremely tacky, and plastic flowers - because if they can’t care about themselves they can’t care about other living beings either.
What’s the hell is going on here? To me it almost feels like failed magick. Everyone knows you shouldn’t focus on a spell, or think about it too much. Say the spell or prepare the curse - then forget about it, just ignore it. Then might come true. Here the families (because it’s in 100% of the cases families) they just add one spell after another because they can’t stop thinking about the happiness and love awaiting them. They’re screaming into the dark void with one Carpe Diem after another, throwing shabby chic signs around them like oblats caught by the wind, putting yet another Family is Happiness magnet on the refrigerator, until all the plastic gets too heavy and push each other down and finds a place in the dusty caves under the white goods of the kitchen.
Then they invite neighbors and friends and relatives, showing off their amazing home with messages everywhere (sometimes even misspelled directly on the wall, with paint), and not so discreetly telling everyone about their imaginary happiness.
It is physical anguish, something one can touch and feel, and it leaves a very bitter and sad aftertaste.
I’m not saying it’s wrong to show your happiness, it’s a great thing and more should be proud of how they feel - but if you need letters written on wooden brick, or dozens of them, hanging on your walls and furniture, inside and outside, to project your happiness (or for that sake, posting quote memes with roses and squiggly writing on social medias like Facebook and Instagram), then you should take a deep look into yourself and see how happy you really are.
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