The Psychic Vampire and you.
The expression Psychic Vampire was popularized by Anton LaVey in the sixties, especially through his seminal work The Satanic Bible. It’s more or less a person who emotionally drains someone else, and I’m sure you all know what that means. Read LaVey’s book for an in-depth guide into how to deal with people like this.
Through my life I've attracted psychic vampires like few other people, and it was for many years one of my biggest weaknesses. I just was too nice, way too nice, and got stuck in their webs one time after another - promising myself to never let it happen again. I could write a lot here how psychic vampires work, or how you can delete them from your life - but it’s a lot easier for you to read the book I’m mentions above. But in short; a psychic vampire can be anyone, from your “best” friend to your partner or your boss or that moronic troll spamming you on Twitter, and the ONLY way to deal with them is to cut all ties and block them. There’s only one way to “kill” a psychic vampire; ram a text of fuck you through them and then hit the block button. You will think it’s heartless, and so will others around you - not to forget the actual psychic vampire - but it is as far from heartless as it can be. Instead it's a way to free your heart from the prison of someone else.
That’s the easy part. I would like to bring up the truly disturbing part of being a victim of a psychic vampire; there’s a huge chance you've become one yourself. Like fictional vampires these fuckers spread their self-loathing manipulative way like a deeply contagious disease. I know, I've been one myself.
This is one of those things you discover years after, maybe analyzing why you lost certain good friends, and slowly coming to terms you've been a self-pitying asshole yourself. Looking back at my later life I can see that that I've stayed away from being one and focusing, without meaning to, on being a victim myself. But before that, oh boy, that’s not a fun insight to deal with. I've probably lost more friends and lovers than I can imagine, and it’s been a painful realization.
A psychic vampire feeds on spreading self-pity and that’s exactly what I did, a lot of it. I lost a lot of good people and at the same time getting myself under attack from others who had the same subconscious agenda - it’s not a deliberate plan from psychic vampires to behave like this, it’s a psychological disorder, a mental illness and the only way to get rid of them is to realize you’re one yourself.
So look at yourself and ask yourself these three questions:
1. How much of your communication depends on negativity about yourself and others?
2. Is it you or your friends who starts your mutual conversations in general?
3. Do you feel hurt if those around you won’t give you the attention you crave?
Don’t bother with the percentage here, just step back and look at how you interact with people and remember to be honest. If you’re open enough you’ll see one side is getting more weight, and then you need to shape up and understand that you’re the guilty party here. Being individualistic or a Satanist (or how you want to brand yourself) is not about stop caring about people around you, it’s actually the opposite; you just need to chose more carefully who you will focus on. If you constantly whines about how awful and ugly you are, that’s not self-critique - it’s just what it is, whining. It’s stealing energy from those around you. If it’s only you who start up conversations with those you think you have some kind of relationship with it’s probably because they don’t feel for talking/chatting with you anymore. You can deal with this and be a better person and change your focus a bit, or you can leave them and start new with someone else. Nothing wrong with that - I've done both myself. If you feel hurt by not getting attention enough then you just don’t realize that you’re not the center of the world for everyone else. You can be the center for yourself, but if you want interaction with others and you don’t give them their attention you’re a failed human being. And you don’t want to be that.
Here’s what you can do; withdraw from everyone, just for a while, but at the minimum a week. The goal is to stop yourself from two things, communicating with others so you can whine about yourself and get away from every chance to get attention. Focus on yourself, read books till you can read them without checking your cell phone constantly (even better, have your phone turned off and don’t bring any form of computer) and spend a lot of time in the nature. The idea is to get rid of the ideas of who you are in the eyes of others and push that reset button once and for all. Miss those you care for and make them miss you.
Do you want to change and open up or do you want to crash and burn? It’s basic magic actually, but as usual it depends on you and only you.
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