The best thing that ever happen to me is my husband. It’s like meeting a true soul mate, someone you can trust to 100% and we still give each other total freedom to live the lives we want to live. And that also means having sex with other guys.
We’re on our eleventh year now and we’ve grown together like I never experienced before. We have no secrets and even if one of us is having a bad day, we won’t bring the other down.
Neither of us see no reason to whine about small things. G have a tendency to leave all cabinet doors open in the kitchen, and I have piles of movies everywhere. Small things that would drive some people crazy. Not us.
Some evenings he meets up with a lover and I’ll do the same. Sometimes his lovers become my friends also, but I have a tendency to met guys that just don’t wanna hang out with my husband ;) That’s a pity.
But this freedom, wow. It’s amazing. It’s incredible to not feel jealous. It made our relationship much stronger than I ever could imagine. I don’t wanna live and share life with anyone else than G, but that won’t stop me to met up with other handsome guys.
We don’t make demands on each other. We are who we are. We pay the rent and we’re nice to each other, but that’s just common sense. I still feel that tickling sensation when we meet after a long day at work, that feeling of true affection and love.
I’m not saying it’s always easy. I’ve had one or two guys who have fallen in love with me (for some bizarre reason!), and G had a quite serious crush on one dude. I respect that. Love is a powerful thing, no matter what kind of love it is.
If I look back at all my other relationships I can see how they always ended because I didn’t want to change for someone else. I am Fred. I am who I am, and that’s how I see other people also. When I met G it was the first time we was on the same level. I love him for the one he is, not how I want him to be.
Here’s my advice for a long and healthy relationship:
Accept each others quirks.
Don’t share economy. Have separate bank accounts.
Accept that your partner might find other people attractive.
Love and sex is two different things.
Respect your partners passions.
Kiss and hug a lot.