How we make up stories to avoid reality.
Whatever you do, you are creating memories. However, how much do you remember, and most of all: what really matters? Are we really seeing what is happening, or is every experience that we have somehow colored by our thinking and prejudices?
We make up stories all the time, we interpret the fact that someone is late means he's really not that interested, when someone forgets our birthday, we think we might have said something wrong. When you don't get the job you think it's because they don't like you. All of this might be completely untrue, and yet we feel that how we think a situation is, is a true reflection of how things are.
Experiment with this: when you walk down the street or when you are having a coffee someplace, look at the people. What do they do to you? Do you feel a connection, a disconnection, maybe you don't like them at first sight or maybe you are really attracted to them? All kinds of feelings and thoughts come up while you are watching people. The fun thing is: you don't know who they are. And yet you already have all kinds of feelings about them. That's something that you do and has no resemblance to reality. You are making up stories, without ever having talked to them.
Are you able to connect with what is really happening? Are you free to watch without judgement? The people you fear, why do you fear them? The people you love, do you love them for who they are?
The books you read, the movies you see, and the people you meet, in fact everything that happens in your life is in a way filtered and repositioned in your mind. That's not necessarily a bad thing, if you walk down a dark alley and come across a suspicious looking person, you might really be in danger, who knows. Sometimes you do have to escape. But most of the time you don't, and yet you do. You don't escape in how you think things are, but how you think that things are, is how you are, how you interpret what is happening.
It's good to be conscious of how your mind is a limited apparatus that doesn't tell the whole story. Who knows what you might discover if you step out of your limited view. And if you think your view is not limited, go and ask other people. Speak out how a certain situation has made you feel. Big chance that by opening up, you'll discover that the story that you made up was only some form of defense mechanism.
On the other hand, by looking outside, you are looking inside. Because everything is empty, devoid of meaning. Things and people only have meaning because you have attributed this meaning. So whenever you experience a strong emotion, it's not the other, it's certainly never is some material stuff, it's always you.
We make up stories all the time to have a defense mechanism, because we cannot handle how things really are, because we find it's easier to find fault with others. But the stories you unconsciously create will create your life, because they influence your decisions and your views. Go look inside and see the tricks your mind plays on you, and then you will gain some distance as well as insights on how things really are.