@scull [post] i would like to make sure that you understand what a grid fulla white guys represents. i'm glad you are keeping the art of icon collages alive, but let's have some serious thought ♥
i've deliberately kept up with a few people who were on ello before any of us. like me, they seem pretty happy there's a new social network, but that's where the similarities seem to end. while i was worried about the inability to block people or have private accounts, they apparently saw no problem. this is the part where i reveal that people are all cis white men (some of them are queer, but if you've been reading along you'll probably get that they're not very good at considering the lives of people not like them).
are they intentionally ruining @ello? of course not. but they simply do not know what it's like to navigate social media as a marginalized person. ello wouldn't be very fun if it stayed the way it is now as the userbase increased. i would have to deal with abuse i can't block (some people are already uncomfortable with the weight loss accounts following them), no private spaces for me and friends to talk, and a small safety team that is unlikely to understand exactly how ello could become unsafe for anyone.
they don't know what it's like to live without the benefits patriarchy imparts on them. even if they absolutely never intend to harm anyone. this is an issue a lot of people face when they are first exposed to the concept of "you are playing this game on a difficulty level a lot of others don't have access to". "but i don't think any of the bad things". the cool thing about patriarchy is that it doesn't require your knowledge or consent to operate. it most certainly doesn't require a secret cabal. actually, it's not very cool, because it ensures the oppression of women in such a way that not a lot of people notice at the same time and in the same way. it's quite hard for men to actually spot things. if you find it unpleasant to be in the dark about this, there's really only one suggestion i have for you: listen to women. don't play them out against each other ("but x said y, which is different from what you said"), and don't try to center this conversation on yourself. the solution to "if i speak up about certain things my mentions fill up with rape threats" is not "well, here's what i would do".
"at least ello's good about lgbt people, right?". i'm glad that "actually we like queer people ♥" is enough crumbs from the table for you in tyool 2014. if ello ever decides to follow through on listening to us, we need to make sure that it isn't just to the most assimilationist of us. i should not have to tell you that we are ~the same~ for you to treat me like a human being. if actual lgbt organizations fall prey to this kind of behavior, what makes you think ello won't?
and what would happen if a trans person emailed the ello abuse team? would they understand the situation at hand? this is different from some rando bothering you, or a brand needing its @nameback. without a conception of how gender and life intersect beyond
RANDO CISHET: PEOPLE KEEP SAYING I'M A DUDE AND I'M JUST LIKE "TRUE".
you are unlikely to arrive at a perspective that lets you help trans people at all. what might - with all the empathy you can muster - merely seem annoying could actually have devastating effects on someone's well-being. but a site team that doesn't understand this would quickly consider this "overreacting" and move on to more ~important~ issues. whenever this happens, and it happens a lot, its already overburdened trans communities that have to pick up the pieces.
so please believe us. trust between a social network and its most vulnerable users is one of the most important and overlooked 'features' everyone secretly wants. ello has a chance to implement it. the collage of white guy icons is more important than you think. they are visible without standing out. they can speak without consequences. they are not the people who really know how a social network should work, because they will barely ever (and if they do, to great media fanfare) experience the negative consequences of it not working.
listen to women. listen to trans people. listen to queer people. listen to people of colour. god damn it, listen to sex workers for once. doing this will not harm the experience for anyone else, but ensure that groups that is much larger than you think have a place on ello. and if they have a place, more of them should show up. that's what you want, right?
what do you have to lose, except a bunch of things that don't affect you and harm so many others? ~~ it is always ok to reshare this with a
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