There is no point in arguing with those who want to argue. They argue because they want to argue and to be right, driven by the need to assert themselves. No matter what you say, they won't hear you. If you try to explain your point of view, they will attack it and milk it for all its worth. This will gut you and empty you and ruin your day. Sure, you might win by the sheer volume of your voice, but you'll still feel wretched after it's over.
Those who love you will understand you without explanations. Those who see you as a target for airing out their own insecurities won't understand your point of view no matter how hard you try.
So let it go. Don't engage. Give them love, if you can. If you have enough of it in you. If not, ignore them and move on. You'll be happier, and those around you will be happier for it.