If you're new to kink, reading erotic stories online can give you ideas of different scenes to play out, suggests Lianne.
Do what feels right
While a list of kinky ideas might be useful for some people, Meg-John says it's better to start with what excites you personally. "For most people, it's not about specific positions or scenarios, but rather playing with different roles or sensations. A great idea to start with is to do something like Betty Martin's three-minute game because that enables you to practice consent as well as figuring out what roles and sensations you might enjoy.
"You might also find Justin and my 'Make Your Own Sex Manual' and 'Erotic Fantasies' zines helpful for tuning into what you're into and communicating it. These include making your own 'yes, no, maybe' list of things you'd like to try, and as well as plenty of suggestions for fantasies, erotic fiction, or ethical porn," they continue.