5 Honest Thoughts on Being the Partner of a Transitioning Transgender:
1) No, no, no. This was not the plan. It was not supposed to happen this way. When I met you we were boy and girl; that's how I intended for us to stay. Boy and girl sitting on the swing-set, coughing out the drag of our first shared cigarette. Boy and girl biking in the park, forcing children out of our because we were obviously more important. Boy and girl at our wedding, when I was wearing a dress, and you were wearing a suit, and I could not have imagined that you were imagining my dress on you.
2) I'm not gay. I have been straight since the sixth month of kindergarten when that little boy kissed me on the cheek and I swore I felt real love. I have never been gay. As a child I expected the traditional nuclear family. I wanted a husband that I loved and dear children running around on the lawn. I guess this means that won't happen.
3) Why did you have to change? I guess you didn't. I guess this was who you were all along, but you could have at least told me that within a few years my husband would be my wife. I need to stop saying things like that. I'm being so selfish. I still love him...I mean her. This should not matter to me. I am acting just like those people that I saw on the news that I could never understand. If it was so easy to preach acceptance then, why am I having such a hard time now?
4) Maybe I just need time to warm myself up to the idea. I can, I can, I can start picturing you in my clothes maybe. Or better yet, I'll have you wear makeup! I need to stop. This is the same person I have always loved; not a zoo animal. Her life is hers to decide.
5) This will work out. Sure, it will be awkward for a little while. I can get past this. I need to be supportive. I will be supportive. Sex organs are not what I fell in love with, and her mind certainly will not change as her anatomy does. I am so proud of her for making this decision. I am so sorry that she has had to hide this for so long. I am so ready to live the rest of my life with this beautiful human being.