We need to build community
Currently, we have very little actual community. I feel like the struggle to be so independent as a family, to be so self-contained and self-sufficient is killing us. As a culture this is what I was raised with, this weird idea that relying on others, sharing, and helping in any meaningful way is somehow NOT the ideal. Why???
I had an idea, years ago, of creating an actual neighborhood where all our friends could live. It was an idea of safety and community, of real connection. I thought if my neighbors were truly kindred spirits and people I actually knew, if they were people I would trust with my children, with keys to my place, well, those would be people who could share ownership of things, share responsibilities with, share ... Life with. My dream was made to come true, in a fashion, some friends of mine spent Years making it come true, breaking ground and actually building that place. But since it was built in an area we didn't want to live in (commutes etc) and since the price of the homes there was out of reach we were not a part of it. We stayed where we were while 90% of our friends moved away. Not all of them went to the amazing neighborhood, some moved to other places to help or be close to family, to pursue dream jobs, and so on.
With all that's going on in our lives now, wow, we could sure use that community. Don't get me wrong, most of the time we are in pretty good shape and would be giving/contributing/helping/nurturing others. That's a big part of what would be so great, I have a lot to give and hardly anyone close enough to share with. My friends who live "close" to us are all at least 30 minutes away by car. It really doesn't make it easy to help each other out. I don't ask for help because I know how far people would have to come to give it.
We need community but I don't know where to start.