There's this saying Menang Jadi Arang, Kalah Jadi Abu which means Win, and you'll be toast. Lose, and you'll be ashes.
I always see it myself how prizes worth nothing before the eyes of my family. I did prove myself all the fruit of my efforts and all they gave me was a look of concern then urging me to hold back, and when I did worse, they urged me to stop.
If it was all about letting go from their grasp, they will show all the sour faces.