I was just reading an excellent post by @wyrdsmith about Epictetus and the Stoicism Philosophy https://ello.co/wyrdsmith/post/kLXaZbLgpws2LEeC1mXsXw its really got me thinking about control over our lives and the effect, if any, on others. It talks about the things we have control over, our thoughts and reactions and the things we don't control, our circumstances and social positions. Since reading it, I have been going back and forth with whether or not I agree. This is making me really crazy cause I can't seem to come to a firm stance on it. I want to be able to control everything, which is a little bit of a problem for me, but coming to terms with not being able to is something I'm working on. But I keep going back to peoples actions and that choices have such an impact on others that in some ways, you can effect how someone else thinks or acts. If an employee is always late, not productive and poor quality work, I will want to fire them because in my view they are not a valued employee. I would first give them a chance, I would sit them down and tell them how and why I am viewing them in this way and lay out what they need to do in order to keep their job. Then its up to them, do they choose to act differently or keep the same behavior. The choice they then make, for better or worse, will decide if I keep them or not. If they choose to be a better employee, I will view them as one. Had they not chosen to act differently, my opinion would have never changed. Their choice has changed my view. This is something I will probably be pondering for awhile and recommend reading the original post.