At the level of an imbalance self, one is primarily focused on preserving the projection of ego (for-itself) where he/she is unwilling to cooperate or assimilate in fear of losing themselves. Ironically this stems from being unfamiliar with their inner self, thus creating (whether subconsciously or unconsciously) an ego or 'skin' to cloak and hide. Or one could be primarily focused outward, bent on pleasing or appeasing (for-other), preferring the words of others other than themselves, where he/she is unwilling to face himself/herself in fear that only emptiness exists within. This is where imbalance shows itself as our anxiety. The repressions of the other side of what essentially is ourselves is the cause of inner turmoil, lack of trust and lack of faith in general .
However, the mantra of “be yourself” in today’s world is not helping this issue to be resolved because it is always already attached with a pre-constructed image of what this “true self” should be. These kinds of pre-constructed selves are become like archetypes for us, similar to different brands of products that we can pick and choose without giving too much thoughts. Rather than acknowledging and come to term with ourselves, the “be yourself” attitude do not make it a task for us to change, in the right way, our anxious selves and take those shortcomings as something to be encouraged. Then, when presented with all these options, we would pursue something that is from the very beginning an image that is not who we are, or at the very least, a self that is fundamentally flawed. It is the case with the self that there are things about it that is powerful, passionate, and strong and there are parts that are weak and undesirable. Even more so, there are aspects about us that is mundane and boring and are the parts that scare us the most. We do not want to accept that underneath all the appearances and showcases, we are just plain human being with goods and bads, and it is the ability to truly see what is actually our strengths and weaknesses that enable us to become better people. We need to confront and reconcile, using our own power, the other side of us that is undesirable for different reasons. It is with this step that other changes are more likely to occur, because we are able to acknowledge our shortcomings.
This issue of anxiety itself splits into two problems, one affects the functionality of an individual and the other affects the harmony of his soul. The first problem is shallower than the second but also more extreme because it is outwardly shown as physical anxiety, an example would be an individual who is always on the edge and does not know what to do with himself. The most likely victims of the first issue are teenagers who expresses anxiety physically. That is why at this age they often demonstrate very extreme behaviours. In one moment, the young person could be totally obsessed with pursuing his self-image and the next is total apathy. In either case, what is shown is a very unstable person who cannot function efficiently since he is occupied with this internal contradiction. He is not autonomous because he is not have the capacity for self-control. The first problem could be remedy by guidance from guardian figures. The second is deeper because it is much more subtle the first. The second issue will not demonstrate an extreme outward behaviour, except for the occasions.