I've, of course, had to unpack what I didn't want in a relationship, from both myself and another. It took years.
I've finally been able to think a lot about what I do want. I could list a lot of specifics; but in summary, I want a relationship that's mutually loving, supportive and respectful of what each is doing to become powerfully present in their own skin.
I think it's about space as much as togetherness. And however long or short, or however the relationship changes, it should leave each person stronger for the lessons learned while being supported and loved. Not from what one needed to recover from because of that lack.
I've always loved this cover, and as it says, I can wait.