Ha! I see that my daughter shared S's FB profile photo. (Don't be ridiculous, of course I check now and then. Doesn't everyone?) She has her own phone now, so was probably looking at people I'd looked at. That would have freaked me out awhile ago, but I finally realized he probably looks at my stuff too (I hope) so now it's just, "oh well."
The internet is a great opportunity for all kinds of awkwardness. Makes both easier and harder to lie, depending on what you're up to. My ex-husband's ex-girlfriend sent me a "friend request" last week. I assumed it was a mistake, so I just ignored it. It seemed the kindest thing to do. She never wanted to meet me when they were dating.
They dated for 2 1/2 years. My ex didn't seem all that broken up about the relationship ending, and he started dating someone else shortly thereafter, so it was probably his idea. My daughter liked his ex-girlfriend a lot, and really likes the new one.
I saw on her phone that she had programmed the new GF's name into her phone, and that new GF texted her a photo of a flower arrangement wishing her a "Happy Wednesday" last week. New GF owns a florist shop in Alameda. I'm very happy that she's kind to my kids (She has three daughters of her own), but I found myself having fearful thoughts of my daughter preferring new GF to me, and how nice she was, and how my daughter would realize she didn't need me at all, and in fact, would rather do all that Mommy/Daughter stuff with new GF....I know that's unlikely, and I was very disappointed in myself for giving into those insecure worries when really, I should just be grateful that new GF is so thoughtful and obviously making a lovely effort with my kids. Sometimes, I hate being human.
On another note, I'm reading Wayne Dyer's interpretation of the Tao Te Ching, called Change Your Thoughts - Change Your Life. I like it. The concepts aren't new, but I like his phrasing and way of discussing it. I recommend it, especially for reading just a chapter at a time then meditating on the theme.
I'm reading it at a good time, as I'm experiencing both loss and renewal in relationships and other aspects of "life" right now. Letting go, accepting, and allowing are all concepts I'm actively focused on right now. (And probably always will be. Aren't they the basic tenets of a life well-lived?)