Here's an interesting fact about me. I experience instant karmic effects. No next life necessary. I noticed at an early age that every single time, I mean without fail, that I judged someone for doing something or feeling or being a certain way, I was fated to find myself in that exact same position sooner rather than later and say, "Oh, now I know why they did that." So I've learned not to judge. Solely out of fear that I'll find myself having sex with a dolphin or something. http://www.nydailynews.com/news/world/video-woman-claims-sex-dolphin-article-1.1823559. It takes a lot to get me not to like someone. I might be temporarily irritated, but usually, there's something relatable about everyone. This life in shades of gray can sometimes result in trouble. My boundaries can get too amorphous for my own good. And I forget to take my own wants into the same account as I do others'. I'm getting better about it though. For instance, I've lately taken to insisting on total clarity. (Only with those I care enough to care what they think though. And based on their reactions, they all find it incredibly annoying.) I was raised in a household where the vast amount of communication was silent disapproval. So, naturally, I married someone like that. These days, I'd rather hear the thing I'm pretty sure the person is thinking that they think I don't want to hear. But I do, want to hear it, I mean. It's merely a personal preference. I just feel more comfortable being absolutely clear. I think it has to do with spending so much time working with horses. There's no room for ambiguity in that relationship. The only downside is that when someone is kind enough to honor your request, you can't then turn around and tell the person they shouldn't be thinking that! You just have to understand that that's what they're thinking, and accept it's their viewpoint. (It's okay to cry on your horse's shoulder though. Best if it's raining, for atmosphere.) It's been happening a lot. Or, I should say, I've been asking for it to happen. Instant karmic effect.