Today I was thinking about the difference between wanting and pining. And where is the magic edge of enough wanting without pining.
I think I found it. I've experienced the entire gamut. For me, pining stifles creativity, while wanting allows you to expand your ideas about what's possible, while also allowing room for adjustments if you don't get exactly what you want.
Wanting something is enjoyable. You take action steps: Lose weight to feel better about how you look and feel with the opposite sex: cast your eye out for new career opportunities; find a way to earn enough money and lose enough weight to outfit yourself in your ideal wardrobe; etc. It's fun, you generally improve your life overall.
Pining takes the fun out of all those things becauae you don't have the ability to focus on all the cool stuff you're doing simply because youre focused on the thing that you must have.
Not getting what you want stings for a minute. Not getting what you pine for is good for you. It forces you to expand your options.
Learn to joyfully hope for what you want, rather than be miserable because you don't have it.
Works for me. I had a great day!