For once, I wasn't swimming. The hot tub and pool weren't up to my temperature standards after all the rain, but the kids didn't care.
Tonight, M was over for dinner and I was telling her the story of the time a guy I didn't know I was dating broke up with me. I took it pretty well.
It was the beginning of my freshman year of college, and one of the seniors had taken me on a couple of dates. I don't remember his name. We'll call him SD, for "senior dude." I didn't feel any attraction, and further, he'd said a couple of things that were off-putting enough for me to know I wasn't interested in getting to know him as anything more than a friend. Besides, I had already decided I was interested in dating J, with whom I'd gone to high school.
Halloween rolls around, and I'd made plans with friends to go to a haunted house, and invited J along. SD called and invited me to go to the haunted house with him and his friends. I thanked him, and told him I'd already made plans with friends, and that I might see him there. My friends, J, and I go and have a great time.
The next day, my dorm room phone rings. (Beginning of the cell phone era. Some people had them, most didn't.) It's SD. He told me we needed to have a "talk." He was very serious. He told me he and his friends had waited for me at the haunted house and I never showed up. I apologized, but also told him there must be a misunderstanding, as I'd told him I had plans with friends, and didn't realize he'd thought we would definitely meet up. He indicated that since he invited me, he'd expected me to ditch my friends to hang out with him. I told him that I hadn't understood that, and even if I had, I wouldn't just cancel prior plans.
He was silent for a few moments, then said, "You know, neither one of us is gonna die if it doesn't happen for us." I told him that was true. He then wished me well and told me he'd see me around. I hung up with no fear of my future without him. Mostly confused about what had just happened.
I told J about it next time I saw him. We both spent some time wondering about that line. The whole scenario was weird. Two years later, we were watching Sixteen Candles. Jake, (the romantic lead) had just found his girlfriend in a compromising position. He said, "You know, neither one of us is gonna die if it doesn't happen for us." J and I turned to each other and totally cracked up. Mystery solved! At least as to where SD came up with that odd line, not so much on why he thought there was anything to break up.
I had to look up the script for this movie, as I couldn't remember the exact line. But it was worth it for that memory. I can't even describe the feeling I had. SD was so serious. I was so "WTF"? At least he let me down gently.