Today I was slammed at work; but I did manage to make a phone call to a fond business acquaintance in Sonoma county. I've loved western Sonoma sice I moved here from Oregon. I need to get a bigger place, and as long as I'm looking for a job, I might as well look further afield. I'm going to meet up with him to talk about schools, job market, etc. Keeping my options open.
Today, my boss called me into a meeting with his business partner. I did offer in my apology email to talk with him at any time about the whole incident. I'm glad he took me up on it. He'd misunderstood my intent behind some earlier comments, but in retrospect, I can see where he might have read something into them different than my intent.
I didn't bother to correct him. Just let him know have his say. If I'd spent time and energy trying to correct him, it would have made me look defensive and argumentative. Better to take the criticsm calmly and with an interested, but not ashamed demeanor. Make it look like I'm agreeing without really agreeing. He feels heard. I understand his viewpoint. It was productive.
He also told me I need to figure out a way to work together with the old office manager. My thoughts exactly. I gave him a little more info about how difficult I find it to communicate with her. He believed me. Something tells me this isn't a new thing. I smiled pleasantly and told them in all sincerity that I would very much welcome a smooth working relationship with her. Because it's true. That would make life much easier.
He'd already planned on talking to her. But I think he and the other partner now have a better sense that I really do want to work with her, and will happily engage with her. It's what I've been wanting this entire time.
Although, just between us, it's damned annoying to be dragged into this drama. I really, truly, haven't done anything at all to contribute to the bad vibes. I'm unfailingly polite and friendly with her.
I have never had trouble getting along with co-workers. I don't click with everyone, but I certainly have always been able to maintain a good working relationship. I own my stuff. I'm not going to take responsibility for someone else's.
She came into the office later and gave me her VM password. It's a start. Even so, I'm going to look around for other opportunities. Based on our conversation this morning, I'll probably be doing other things than this role for the company. That could be interesting. But I want to always keep my options open.
I realize now that I feel best when I have a lot of freedom. I hope to get work sorted out to the point where I'm not relying on any one person for my livelihood. Except myself, of course.