ARE WE HAPPIER?
We live in times when everything is bigger, better and faster. Thanks to computers, smartphones and technology, all we need is within easy reach of our fingertips. We are so connected, yet so disconnected. And we are urged not to dwell deep in the psyche of our emotions, because it will hold us back. However, more than ever the world is spilling over with anxiety and so much frustration. So why aren't we overwhelmingly happy? Depending on how you measure happiness, it has been proven time and time again that it is not a correlation of income, wealth nor materialistic things or even the power of mental positive thinking alone. Happiness is a roadmap built by experiences, internal feelings, thoughts, the successes and failures of our emotional journey, and the personal narrative that help mould our personalities. Truth of the matter is happiness and sadness will always equally exist in our lives. But which ever one overrules the power of the other, depends on our ability to strike the right balance in everything we do. The process of navigation through the discomfort of extreme emotions will require resilience. This doesn't mean standing resolute in the face of adversity. On the contrary, it is learning to bend with the wind.
We are not always right, and the odds are not always against us - is the first lesson that should be highlighted in your book of life. I know it's not always easy to decide to push away negative thoughts and let go of pain. It's like been asked to give up smoking, while stirring at a pack of cigarettes in front of you. The thought will be amplified, and it will come back to haunt you. Instead, it's about forgiving yourself and forgiving others for situations beyond your control. Too much pride is a road to self-destruct as not having any dignity at all. But having emotional flexibility is a skill that will teach you how to face moments of hardships with strength. Always try and understand the lesson and knead the situation to the best possible outcome, before moving forward with determination. You must always act, not react, in a way that is congruent with your values and in line with your character. And you must also be intelligent enough to create a space between you, and the momentarily anger you are feeling. Because in the heat of the moment you can end up losing great relationships that you value, and the damage won't be easy to repair. It's simple if you think about it this way: pause, step back, think, then act.